As a Domme, I am approached by a lot of “subs”. Sometimes they’re bratty subs who want to push to see what they can get away with. This is not the way to get my attention. This is how you get ignored. Why? Because I can’t make you. “Then you’re not a real Domme.” No one, online, can make you do anything.
One of my real life subs was often bratty in a playful way. It can be fun when everyone is enjoying it. She was also a pain slut. In the early stages of our relationship, she would intentionally do things to piss me off so that I’d beat her. However, being the smart Domme I am, I knew this and didn’t give in to her manipulative ways.
I’d let her push what buttons she thought she was pushing. I’m a very patient person. I’d wait until she’d dug herself a pretty big hole and then we’d discuss her behavior and her punishment. The moment she’d been waiting for!!! Would it be the crop? the flogger? rope? I can still see her kneeling there nearly tingling with excitement. Time out!! Yes, I’d put her in time out. Usually she was in a crate or some form of restraints….. and then I’d go join the others. Big surprise that I only had to do this once?
The only people who can MAKE you do something are the ones with guns to your head or threatening your loved ones. The rest of the time it’s free will, baby. So don’t bother coming into my IMs wanting me to dominate you and then not do what you’re told to do. Does anybody have time for that?
I loved that my sub was a pain slut. She enjoyed the various items I’d use. The crop being one of my favorites. She learned that when she behaved, she’d get lovely bruises to show off to her friends. And when she didn’t behave, she got lovely crate marks instead. Live and Learn!